There are so many articles out there that tell you: Naming your baby is a momentous decision that carries a lifetime of significance. It’s a beautiful opportunity to express your love, values, and aspirations for your child.
What they don’t address is just how much back and forth you’re going to do on this decision. Yes, some couples know before they even get a positive pregnancy test, but they are not the norm. Many families I’ve talk to – and my own included – struggle with naming for MONTHS before baby arrives. Finding the perfect name for your new addition can be stressful. Here are 10 things to consider in your search.
1. The Power of a Name
The perfect name is more than just a label; it’s a reflection of identity, culture, and personality. It’s the first gift you give your child, a piece of their heritage, and a symbol of your hopes and dreams for their future. Understanding the power of a name can guide you in making a meaningful choice. Names carry weight, not just in their meaning but in their context. (There is a reason Adolf is NOT a popular baby name) Names like Chad, Barbie or Karen all have connotations thanks to popular culture.
2. Start Early and Explore Together
Choosing a name isn’t something you should rush. Begin brainstorming and discussing names with your partner early in your pregnancy to ensure you have plenty of time to explore options. Don’t hesitate to involve other family members in the conversation; their input can be valuable. However, choose who you bring into the conversation carefully. Many people will tell you things like “Oh I had a ____ in my class and he was a complete nightmare!” So make sure that the people you include are supportive and not bringing negativity to this process.
3. Consider Your Values and Heritage
Your family’s values and cultural background can be a significant influence on your name choice. Many parents choose names that honour their cultural heritage, family traditions, or religious beliefs. When I was pregnant with my oldest, my partner’s grandmother insisted it was family tradition to name after a recently passed family member. My choices were Mildred and Gertrude, neither were names I felt any connection with – however there are plenty of other family names that I considered in our search for the perfect name.. Researching your roots and exploring meaningful names from your background can be a great starting point.
4. Name Trends and Popularity
Names often follow trends, so it’s essential to consider whether you want a timeless or trendy name. Keep in mind that names that are currently popular may become less so over time. Look at past trends and think about how the name will age with your child. Also consider how the name will suit your child at various ages – the best example of this from my family is my grandmother – Gladys Doris. I can not imagine passing these names on to my children. Can you imagine a toddler named Gladys?
5. Gender-Neutral Names
In today’s society, gender-neutral names are gaining popularity. These names provide flexibility and inclusivity. Names like Jordan, Riley, or Avery are excellent options if you prefer not to conform to traditional gender norms. My middle child, Jayden, will extoll the virtues of a name that does not have gender roles immediately associated with it.
6. Unique and Unusual Names
Some parents opt for unique and unusual names to make their child stand out. While this can be a beautiful choice, it’s essential to strike a balance between individuality and practicality. Uncommon names can be memorable, but they should also be easy to pronounce and spell. Trillian, my eldest, strikes the perfect balance between unique and easy to pronounce.
7. Avoid Potential Pitfalls
Consider potential pitfalls when choosing a name. Think about how the name might be shortened or mispronounced, as well as any negative associations or teasing that could arise. Additionally, ensure the name flows well with the last name and doesn’t create awkward combinations. I’m sure we’ve all heard the jokes about Ben Dover.
8. Test the Name
Before finalizing your choice, say the name out loud in various contexts. How does it sound with your last name? Does it pair well with common middle names? Test the name with friends and family to get their input. Sometimes, hearing the name spoken can reveal any potential issues.
9. Middle Names and Nicknames
Think about middle names and nicknames as part of the whole name package. Middle names can be a place to incorporate family names or additional meaningful elements. Consider how the name will sound when shortened or used affectionately. (Also consider the coolness factor of your child being able to say “Danger” is my middle name – though with Danger you may also want to consider how often you want to visit the hospital.)
10. Trust Your Instincts
In the end, trust your instincts. Your connection with your baby is unique, and you’ll know when you’ve found the perfect name. Don’t be afraid to make a bold choice if it feels right for you and your child. Here in Ontario you don’t need to register a name immediately – you can take up to a year! Many families narrow down their choices to a short list and wait until they meet their new addition to finalize a decision.
Conclusion
Naming your baby is a beautiful and meaningful experience. It’s an opportunity to celebrate your family’s heritage, values, and hopes for the future. Take your time, involve loved ones, and explore a wide range of options to find the perfect name for your little one. Remember that the name you choose will become an integral part of your child’s identity, so make it a choice filled with love and meaning. Congratulations on this exciting journey into parenthood!